Blogmas 22 | The Power of the RIGHT Friends

Friends? How many of us have them? Ones we can depend on? Friends? Real friends require investment of time, energy and intentionality. I learned that there are over 7 billion people in the world and we all may have different definitions of what a friend is. I learned that certain words can mean different things to different people and many words need to be defined. Words such as friend, loyalty, being there and more. Sometimes draining a person and getting all you need is a true friend to one but to another healthy boundaries of what I do is also a friend. To one saying no is not being a good friend but to another saying no sometimes is being the best friend. I feel many friendships do not last because our definitions and expectations are different but not always expressed. So we have these ideas and never share them with the other person and then get mad when they don’t do what we want.

Until our definition of friendship is the same, we will continue to have unequally yoked friendships. According to the bible, a friend lays down his life for you (John 15:13). Jesus was the perfect picture of what a friend should be. A true friendship made in heaven is when they sharpen one another as iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). If you have friends in your life who are not helping you to grow or to become better, that is not a friend. A friend is supposed to edify you and lift you up. The bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. A friend helps you meet your goal and push you toward that goal. A friend lifts you up when you are falling. If you are ashamed to express your shortcomings to a person, that is not your friend nor someone you trust. Pride does not belong in friendship. Where there is no humility, there can be no friendship. A true friend can admit when they need help and when they are struggling.

The enemy wants you to believe that being alone is best but that is a trick of the enemy. He wants to isolate you because when you are alone you are much more vulnerable. When you are alone he has a greater chance of devouring you and no one will know. Even natural enemies and predators want to get you by yourself, isolation is a weapon of the enemy to leave you defeated with no one around to call on for help. He wants to get you to a place where no one hears your cries and can help rescue you. But the devil is a liar, I pray right now that God leads you to the right friends. He wants to attack your mind and give you all these thoughts about life, yourself and others. In this case, a friend is like a buffer. A buffer is also an intercessor. They stand in between you and the enemy and a friend helps you to fight.

Allstate understands this perfectly, they understand the power of being in the right hands. I have heard it said, I can tell where your life is headed by looking at your friends. Also in the words of my mother if you have 9 broke friends you will be the 10th. The bible says, bad company corrupts good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33). The bible has the perfect picture of friendship. The bible also has all the wisdom you need to know about how to be a good friend and how to discern if someone is a friend to you.

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